The Big Reveal Maxine has a TWIN

The Big Reveal Maxine has a TWIN!

The Big Reveal Maxine has a TWIN. Today on the show I announced I want to reveal something. Well here it is! I don’t know what to think about it.

Every time I look in a mirror I do not recognize myself. Stay turned and I will tell why I did this to myself.

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Meet my hair TWIN. My sister Yolandria Holt. All I see is my sister.



Do you have a mentor

January is National Mentoring Month

Do you have a mentor?


January is National Mentoring Month and it’s easier to find a mentor than you think! This may be intimidating to you at first but don’t let your fear of asking someone to be your mentor inhibit your growth. Here are some tips to help you find your mentor:

Clarify what you want.

Think outside your current job location and don’t restrict yourself.

Set up a meeting.

Be clear with your mentor.

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The vision of a mentor is to select a group of people to have a supportive relationships they need to grow, develop into thriving and be productive.

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The mission is to fuel the quality and quantity of mentoring relationships for people and to close the mentoring gap for the one in three businesses fail without this critical support.

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The impact is to have a structured mentoring relationships while you complete your success journey.

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Your goals and vision for the future. Take a look to understand your journey and the impact on the next chapter of your life.

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Presidential Proclamation — National Mentoring Month


At the heart of America’s promise is the belief that we all do better when everyone has a fair shot at reaching for their dreams. Throughout our Nation’s history, Americans of every background have worked to uphold this ideal, joining together in common purpose to serve as mentors and lift up our country’s youth. During National Mentoring Month, we honor all those who continuously strive to provide young people with the resources and support they need and deserve, and we recommit to building a society in which all mentors and mentees can thrive in mutual learning relationships.

By sharing their own stories and offering guidance and advice, mentors can instill a sense of infinite possibility in the hearts and minds of their mentees, demonstrating that with hard work and passion, nothing is beyond their potential. Whether simply offering a compassionate ear or actively teaching and inspiring curiosity, mentors can play pivotal roles in young peoples’ lives. When given a chance to use their talents and abilities to engage in their communities and contribute to our world, our Nation’s youth rise to the challenge. They make significant impacts in their communities and shape a brighter future for coming generations.

My Administration is committed to fostering opportunities for mentorship — because when our children have strong, positive role models to look up to, they grow up to be good neighbors and good fellow citizens. Through the My Brother’s Keeper initiative, we are working with local governments, businesses, and charitable organizations across our country to connect more of our youth to effective mentoring programs and support networks to reinforce the fact that all young people are valued and to empower them with the skills they need to reach their full potential. We have achieved the highest high school graduation rate on record — 82 percent — and we remain focused on setting high standards that will help our students graduate ready for college and careers. In addition, we are supporting job-driven training initiatives like apprenticeships so our doers and dreamers can earn and learn at the same time. And through First Lady Michelle Obama’s Reach Higher initiative, we are working to ensure every student has the opportunity to pursue their education and life goals.

Every young person can benefit from having a mentor, and all people carry unique ideas and experiences they can employ as a mentor. I encourage all Americans to visit to learn more about opportunities to make a lasting difference in the lives of our youth. This month, let us pledge our support for our Nation’s young people, and let us honor those who give of themselves to uplift our next generation. Working together, we can provide every child with the tools, guidance, and confidence they need to flourish and succeed.

NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK OBAMA, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and the laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim January 2016 as National Mentoring Month. I call upon public officials, business and community leaders, educators, and Americans across the country to observe this month with appropriate ceremonies, activities, and programs.

IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this thirty-first day of December, in the year of our Lord two thousand fifteen, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and fortieth.



It’s Warrior Wednesday and Nothing Should Stand in Your Way

“Tomorrow we should look back at today as the inspiration…”

medHave you ever wondered if you are getting the most out of your life? I think we all have—but what we have to remember is that today we build our tomorrow. Some people wish that changes could take place. Some people wish so hard—but they fail to put the work in. Today, we should be working to make our tomorrow great. The first step in changing our lives is making the decision to do so—but these decisions are sometimes hard to make.

Knowing that the decision to change your life may be the most important decision you will ever make can make it harder to make a choice. As all of your inner demons come out to skew the way you feel and the way you make choices, it’s important to keep a level head, a clear mind and a strong understanding of what YOU need.

I decided to put together four techniques I have used to help myself make decisions. There is no perfect decision making process, but these techniques will help you make a clear and concise decision.

Try to get a second opinion

Going with your “gut” instinct often means that your decisions are highly swayed by emotion, which may not lead to you doing the right thing. To better see the bigger picture, try to get a second opinion on what you should do from someone you trust and who does not have a vested interest in the outcome.

Gather and study all of the available information

Many of us go with what “feels right” when making decisions; however, the outcome of important decisions should not depend solely on how you are feeling at that exact moment in time, as feelings can change quite dramatically from one day to the next. Before consulting your gut feeling, try to take into account all the important facts and assess the implications of each outcome. Consider what the risks are with each outcome, who it will affect and whether it is feasible.

Be sure to set yourself a deadline

While weighing up all of your options is an important part of the decision-making process, spending too much time seeking out possible solutions and trying to pinpoint the “right” one can actually make the process more difficult and stressful than it needs to be. While a certain period of time should be allotted for considering your options, it can help to set a deadline for making your decision and stick to it. Decide what would be a realistic amount of time for making your decision and write down the date somewhere for your reference.

Sit down and make a pros and cons list

It’s the age-old technique for making decisions, but writing down a list of the pros and cons of each of your options is also one of the most effective ways to make a sensible and well thought out decision. Write down all your options, then dedicate a separate sheet of paper to each. Draw a line down the center of each sheet and write a list of all the pros (or benefits) of the option down one side of the division, and all the cons, or disadvantages, down the other.

Rather than counting up the number of pros and cons for each option, it is important to “weight” each point according to how significant it is. You can grade each point on a scale of one to five, for example, in terms of importance.

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It’s Warrior Wednesday: If Only He Came Soon….


Have you ever felt frustrated, overwhelmed, and in disarray about a situation in your life…. where you wished and thought, if only God had intervened soon enough, your loved one would not have died? If Only God had intervened soon enough, the business or dream you were trying to make happen would not have collapsed? If Only, He had come soon enough, things would not have turned out the way it did.

            “Lord if only…Lord if only… Lord if Only!”

Many are afraid to admit this but there have been times in my life where I just didn’t understand the initial outcome of a promise I knew God had deposited into my life, or why I put so much work into something or someone and it turns sour when I was sure it was God who’d asked me to do that or forge that relationship.

Join me in exploring some scriptural verses today to help ease our minds:
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39 “Take away the stone,” he said.
“But, Lord,” said Martha, the sister of the dead man, “by this time there is a bad odor, for he has been there four days.”

Imagine a loved one gravely ill; your family members prayed and fasted and at the end of the day, that loved one dies… How do you reconcile with this?

Now imagine, a dream you had nursed for long, you have pumped all that you had in it, prayerfully considering your path, pushing forward because you really believed you were made to solve that problem through your innovative idea. At the end of the day, things did not happen the way you envisioned.

Imagine a relationship you were truly dedicated to building, knowing that this person is who you will live the rest of your life with; or go into business with, or perhaps you were meant to mentor, but then it all ended in painful breakups.

The Story of Lazarus:
The story in John 11 is that of Lazarus. He fell gravely ill and his family did all they could to get Jesus attention to visit. When he finally got to the town, he was met with mourners in sack clothes … there was much wailing and turmoil. Many probably did not understand what Jesus was doing as he walked among them examining their countenance. I can imagine all of the murmuring and some saying, what is Jesus doing here? Didn’t He realize that the man – Lazarus is now dead? Some even said it to his face, don’t you see or know that Lazarus has been dead for 4 days? When we needed you to come, you did not show up? What could you possible do now that his body is decaying?

Jesus Response to the People’s Behavior:
How could they have doubted the father? How could they have doubted that he did not hear them? How could they have doubted that He knew exactly what had happened and that he was still the same person who’d performed much miracles before Lazarus death?

But that God many be glorified and that he (Jesus) fulfills his promise…he called out to Lazarus.. and commanded him to come forth from underneath the grave. Immediately, the stones covering the mouth of the tomb were pushed back and Lazarus came out.
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While we may not understand why it takes Forever for God to answer our prayers, He has heard us the very first time we made our request. Often the answers are waiting for us to fully align with God’s words, be ready to receive it, having the right attitude to sustain the answer.

Wisdom Nugget for Today:
Take the limits off GOD! Take the limits off His Power. He is God who answers ALL prayers and because He sees the future more than we do, HE ANSWERS THE WAY HE KNOWS IT WILL EVENTUALLY BENEFIT US.

In the case of Lazarus, Jesus was not 4 days late but HE WAS RIGHT ON TIME. Likewise, whatever the dream is that seems dead right now, if you take the limits off God, HE will breathe life into it and cause it to prosper at the right time. Our time is never His time. He owns the past, the present and the future and because He knows your DNA, He will never allow any vision, dreams, or goals to crush you ..which can happen if fulfilled sooner.

Today, choose to take the limit off God.Move into the realm of possibilities, trusting that he knows the right time to release that which you have asked. Continue to abide in the will of the father for your life, crushing every fear, every doubts, every past pains from failure with the understanding that today’s FAILURE is a platform for TOMORROW’S GREATNESS.

Next Time,
Be Inspired, Be Motivated, Be Of Sentimental Value, Be Authentic

Dr. Princess Fumi S. Hancock, BSN, MA, DNP.
Author, Screenwriter, Speaker, Behavioral Health & Transformation Interventionist

Original Copy (C) Copyright 2016 The Princess of Suburbia (R).

It’s Warrior Wednesday: Get Over Yourself & Out of Your Own Way!

Get Out Your Own Way!

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Many see success as a mystery because they have had so many unsuccessful ventures &/or relationships that they have now resolved that perhaps they are not meant to succeed.

On today’s episode, Dr. Princess Fumi Hancock will talk frankly and help you understand why you have failed or things are not going quite well in your life. LISTEN HERE!

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One Small Positive Thought

One small Positive Thought in the morning can change your whole day.


Success comes when people act together; failure tends to happen alone. Deepak Chopra




 A day of worry is more exhausting than a week of work. 

John Lubbock



If you want to change attitudes, start with a change in behavior.

William Glasser



You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself, any direction you choose. Dr. Seuss



Your ego can become an obstacle to your work. If you start believing in your greatness, it is the death of your creativity.

Marina Abramovic



If I’m gonna tell a real story, I’m gonna start with my name.

Kendrick Lamar



I’m just thankful for everything, all the blessings in my life, trying to stay that way.

I think that’s the best way to start your day and finish your day.

It keeps everything in perspective.

Tim Tebow


Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today,

and creates a vision for tomorrow. Melody Beattie


Don’t let life discourage you; everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was. Richard L. Evans


Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines,

practiced every day. Jim Rohn

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Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.

Francis of Assisi


 Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. Winston Churchilluntitled (62)

 Do something today that your future self will thank you for. Unknown

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Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.

Willie Nelson



Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.

Arthur Ashe



Smile in the mirror. Do that every morning and you’ll start to see a big difference in your life.

Yoko Ono

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Where you start should not determine where you end up.

Barack Obama



Why Does Domestic Abuse Happen

Why Does Domestic Abuse Happen

What is Domestic Violence?

  • Domestic Violence is a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear and intimidation, often including the threat or use of violence.
  • Other terms for domestic violence include intimate partner violence, battering, relationship abuse, spousal abuse, or family violence.

Who is Most Likely to Suffer from Domestic Abuse or Become a Victim of Domestic Violence?

  • Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of gender, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, income, or other factors.
  • Women and men can be victims of domestic violence.

How Many Men are Domestic Violence Victims?

  • Men are victims of nearly 3 million physical assaults in the USA.

How Often Does Domestic Violence Occur?

  • 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence during her lifetime.

Why Does Domestic Abuse Happen?

  • No victim is to blame for any occurrence of domestic abuse or violence.
  • While there is no direct cause or explanation why domestic violence happens, it is caused by the abuser or perpetrator.

When and Where Does Domestic Violence Occur?


  • Domestic violence is most likely to take place between 6 pm and 6 am.
  • More than 60% of domestic violence incidents happen at home.

What Happens to Victims of Domestic Violence?

  • Domestic violence is the third leading cause of homelessness among families, according to the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development.
  • At least 1/3 of the families using New York City’s family shelter system are homeless due to domestic violence.

Domestic Violence in America: General Statistics and Facts

  • Women ages 18 to 34 are at greatest risk of becoming victims of domestic violence.
  • More than 4 million women experience physical assault and rape by their partners.
  • In 2 out of 3 female homicide cases, females are killed by a family member or intimate partner.

What are the Effects of Domestic Violence on Children?

  • More than 3 million children witness domestic violence in their homes every year.
  • Children who live in homes where there is domestic violence also suffer abuse or neglect at high rates (30% to 60%).
  • Children exposed to domestic violence at home are more likely to have health problems, including becoming sick more often, having frequent headaches or stomachaches, and being more tired and lethargic.
  • Children are more likely to intervene when they witness severe violence against a parent – which can place a child at great risk for injury or even death.

What are the Effects of Domestic Violence on Mental Health?

  • Domestic violence victims face high rates of depression, sleep disturbances, anxiety, flashbacks, and other emotional distress.
  • Domestic violence contributes to poor health for many survivors including chronic conditions such as heart disease or gastrointestinal disorders.
  • Most women brought to emergency rooms due to domestic violence were socially isolated and had few social and financial resources.

What is the Economic Cost of Domestic Violence?

  • Domestic violence costs more than $37 billion a year in law enforcement involvement, legal work, medical and mental health treatment, and lost productivity at companies.

What Happens if Domestic Violence Victims Do Not Receive Help?


  • Without help, girls who witness domestic violence are more vulnerable to abuse as teens and adults.
  • Without help, boys who witness domestic violence are far more likely to become abusers of their partners and/or children as adults, thus continuing the cycle of violence in the next generation.

#1 FACT: Most domestic violence incidents are never reported.

Intimate partner violence refers to behavior by an intimate partner or ex-partner that causes physical, sexual or psychological harm, including physical aggression, sexual coercion, and psychological abuse and controlling behaviors.

Sexual violence is any sexual act, attempt to obtain a sexual act, or other act directed against a person’s sexuality using coercion, by any person regardless of their relationship to the victim, in any setting. It includes rape, defined as the physically forced or otherwise coerced penetration of the vulva or anus with a penis, other body part or object.

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It’s Warrior Wednesday: The Road to Success Requires Some “Housecleaning” & “Heart cleaning”

It’s Warrior Wednesday: Southern Warrior Sister, Dr . Princess Fumi Hancock presents:
The 5 Minute Success Blueprint

The Road to Success Requires Some “Housecleaning” & “Heart cleaning”

The Road to Success Requires Some “Housecleaning” & "Heartcleaning"
In Just 5 Minutes, You Will Garner Cutting edge Wisdom Nuggets to thrust you to your Destination. Knowledge is POWER. LISTEN!

The Road to Success Requires Some “Housecleaning”.
Housecleaning – The removal of unwanted or superfluous items, practices, conditions, or personnel.

Many are not successful because they lack complete focus. At one time, they are doing something but before they see the success of that one thing, they have moved unto something else. Are you guilty?

On today’s episode, Dr. Princess Fumi Hancock will discuss the importance of doing some house and heart cleaning before taking a step towards success. LISTEN. LIKE, & SUBSCRIBE HERE!

Check Out the #1 habit You Must Avoid Like a Plague to Succeed
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The Past Is Your Lesson

The Past Is Your Lesson

When you look back, you see how far you have gone, and seeing the distance from where you were to where you are now is encouraging.   


Knowing that you have made a huge improvement by moving away from your unhealthy and toxic past will give you a sense of fulfillment.  It will make you want to keep pushing and never stop.

You need to forget some feelings but you need to remember the lessons that came with the experience.  Revisiting the past will remind you of how you managed to survive it and what brought you where you are.

In the daily hustle and bustle of life, it is easy to be caught up in the middle of life’s chaos and forget your purpose.  Looking back will remind you of why you are here in the first place and where exactly you are going.  It will give you a sense of direction.


When you look back, you get in touch with your inner self; who you were and what molded you to become who you are right now. Sometimes closure is needed. You can’t heal if you are not willing to even acknowledge a painful situation. That pain will just continue to manifest itself in other areas of your life.

Looking back is an opportunity to laugh at yourself.  All your boo boos in the past, all your wrong decisions that led you to the right one.  Those memories can all put a smile on your face when you’re over the bitterness.  It is especially fun to relive your past with friends who will not judge you for your mistakes.


You prevent history from repeating itself.  You prevent yourself from committing the same mistakes all over again because looking back will refresh your memory as to what it was you vowed to never do again.

When you look back, you may realize that you have let many opportunities pass you by. Maybe you did not say the words you should have said.  Because of that, you will grab every opportunity given to you. Now you know better.  All because you’re past reminds you of that. The purpose of reflection is not to throw a pity party or to send yourself on a guilt trip, but to learn from your difficulties and move on from them.

It feels good to know how wise, strong, and independent you have become.  You will know that by looking back and comparing yourself now to your former self.  You have changed.  You should be proud of yourself.


Look back without the intention of dwelling in the past, but only so you can be reminded of the painful yet rewarding process of change and healing.

Go ahead and take a glimpse of what was, so you can be grateful for what is, and stay hopeful for what will be.


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Growth Happens in The Valley


Growth Happens in The Valley


An Incredible Happy Ending


Anonymous Saves A Suicidal Girl


Late last year, 15-year-old Kylie Kylem was feeling suicidal. Because adolescence is a horrible, horrible time, she felt unable to talk to her friends or parents and instead took to Twitter in search of sympathy. Unfortunately, her bullies happened to be online as well, and what followed was an exchange so depressing it’ll make you want to cry.

Instead of acting like human beings for once in their miserable lives, the bullies responded to Kylie’s tweets by encouraging her to kill herself. If you’ve ever been around a depressed person, you know this isn’t a good thing to do. Kylie started tweeting about cutting herself and seemed on the verge of doing something awful when Anonymous and Rustle League, who apparently patrol Twitter looking out for this kind of thing, decided to step in.

What followed was a darkly gratifying exchange that saw Anonymous pull the bullies’ contact details and threaten to identify them to the police, their parents, their principal, and anyone in authority. After a whole lot of groveling, the bullies were eventually let off with a warning—on the condition that they apologize to Kylie. And apologize they did, promising to look after their victim from then on until the end of time. Best of all, the offer was conditional on Kylie directly messaging the Anon guys to tell them she was okay. Rather than take the opportunity for cold, cold revenge, she did exactly that, rising above the level of her bullies and looking awesome in the process.


The Kiss That Stopped A Suicide

One of the worst things about being young is the way passing things seem somehow permanent. So when an unnamed 16-year-old in China faced yet another example of fate raining all over his incredibly poor family, he decided to step out rather than suffer a life of torment and misery. Climbing over the railing of a pedestrian bridge, he prepared to jump. At which point a passing waitress named Liu Wenxiu decided to get involved.

Despite having never seen the kid before, despite knowing nothing of his problems, she followed him to the railing and did the only thing she could: She listened. She listened as this random 16-year-old described the pit his life had fallen into, she listened as he listed the endless problems tearing his family life to bits, and then she simply showed him her wrists. As they stood there, surrounded by cops and gawping pedestrians, Liu told him the story behind her own attempted suicide—quietly, firmly, and without any contrivances. When she was done, she leaned forward, hugged the boy, and gave him a kiss. And the boy suddenly decided that maybe life was worth living after all. All Liu had done was something no one else had ever thought to do: She’d given the kid her full attention and really listened. And that little slice of kindness was all it took to save his life.

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